I was completely surprised when I was asked to give a talk on judging others. It’s not exactly a rainbows and sunshine kind of subject, but my perspective completely changed when I was given previous talks to base it off of. And here’s what really surprised me…they were from 1972 and 1973.
Has no one said anything about judging others in 40+ years? Why not choose a more recent talk?
Then I asked myself, what happened in 1972 that made the brethren give such important talks? So I looked it up.
In 1972 and the year following, America experienced: the end of the Vietnam War, the Watergate scandal, attacks in Israel, the Cold War, Roe v. Wade, and an oil crisis.
How similar is that to the political scandal, new Cold War, nuclear threats in Asia, and difficulties in the Middle East we’re experiencing today?
We might as well be in the ’70s, but we know the internet is coming and it’s going to be great. Plus flying cars are always on the horizon.
Name a movie with flying cars in the comments for a virtual high five 🙂
It wasn’t until later that I remembered how often I prayed for help to stop judging people and see them as Christ sees them. This talk was exactly what I needed.
It was really interesting to look at why we shouldn’t judge others. Namely, we aren’t worthy to judge someone’s worth and that when we judge others, we are really judging ourselves.
I loved this quote that Elder Higgins shared, “It has been wisely suggested that before we point out someone else’s faults, we should take time to count ten-ten of our own faults.”
Christ told us in the Sermon on the Mount not to be too concerned with the mote in our brother’s eye until we get the beam out of our own eye. “The Savior was suggesting that because we ourselves are sinners, we are not justified in condemning others for sinning,” Elder Higbee explained.
And to get to the real kicker, we have to look at D&C chapter 1 where it says the Lord will “measure to every man according to the measure which he has measured to his fellow man.”
Which begs the question, are we confident enough with the criteria we use in judging others that we are willing to have the Lord judge us by our criteria rather than his?
If the Lord judges us using his own criteria, we are assured of a just and merciful judgement. Personally, I’d much rather go with that.
Elder Tanner said, “If there be one place in life where the attitude of the agnostic is acceptable, it is in this matter of judging. It is the courage to say, ‘I don’t know. I am waiting for further evidence. I must hear both sides of the question.’”
In 1st Samuel Chapter 16 we read, “Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.”
The reason we shouldn’t judge is obvious. We can’t see what’s in the heart.
Only by suspending judgment do we exhibit real charity.
Obviously, knowing these things doesn’t automatically make you stop judging others. It’s a process. But I try to remind myself of these things when I’m finding it particularly hard. Overall, I feel like the more I study the gospel and open myself to the spirit, the more I love people I don’t know and I think that’s all because of getting closer to Christ’s love.
Remember to comment with your favorite (or any) flying car movie!
I’d also love to hear your thoughts about judging others and what you do to love instead.